What is the heart of change? It’s about me, it’s about YOU and it’s about living in the world of possibility. It’s about following our hearts, dreams and aspirations. Looking through the lense of lessons learned, taking what we need while moving forward into a new and exciting future that is exactly as we had dreamed it to be. The heart of change is the very essence of taking those beliefs and putting them into action. Creating the world we would love to see. The way I see it is we are here in this world for a limited amount of time and we have a variety of choices as to how we wish to spend this time. This BLOG was ignited from a place of love and passion but equally from a place of deep questioning over what aligns with me and what doesn’t and what can I do to change this perception of reality. It is through these reflections, these moments and the journey of ups and downs that has inspired me about creating personal changes and inspiring others to do the same.
As Covey once said, In order to change a given situation, we must change ourselves, and in order to change ourselves, we must be able to change our perceptions.
This BLOG series will take you on a journey of personal reflections, lessons learned and hopes for the future. My intention is to help inspire and empower others to ignite their own heart of change. Given a choice to stay as we are or live our best versions of ourselves, what would you choose?
Sometimes change just happens, whether we are ready or not. For me, in the past year, this has been the case. I have always considered myself openly curious about all aspects of life, but I spent most of my time feeling lost as to what my purpose was. And not truly knowing myself meant most of my time was occupied in living vicariously through others. Empowering people to live there hopes and dreams has always been something that truly ignited me, but it wasn’t until this past year of circumstances and change that I truly began to understand who I am and who I aspire to be. It is a journey and change, although scary at times, is an essential part of growth. So here I am, ready or not, jumping into a world of uncertainty, of trust and becoming my own heart of change.
It must be said, I am not changing because something is broken and it needs fixing. I have spent a lot of my life going down that path, and have learned that it simply doesn’t work. The more you fight it, the more you judge things as bad or wrong the more these things circulate around you. There is so much in your world that can become a reality simply because you perceive it to be. I relate it to buying a car. Once you lock onto the car you want, they begin appearing everywhere, but previously you might not have seen them quite so often. This is an example of how the mind can manifest its reality. Believing you’re not enough, that your illness defines you, that you can’t do something, that the world is out to get you, that everything is scarce, that the change in weather is good/bad and that things are impossible/hard. Imagine how quickly these beliefs can circulate and recreate your reality. For me, I experienced this first hand. I felt lost, overwhelmed and I was unsatisfied with who I was and the ‘reality’ of how we are ‘suppose’ to live. I was trying to cling on to the world in which I believed was possible but was met with a reality that compromised those beliefs. And that truth became my reality. Those thoughts kept circulating. I was fighting an endless fight that was leaving me in a state of exhaustion. I knew what I cared about, what I longed for but it wasn’t showing up for me, largely, because my lense on the world was tainted by a residing judgement and disbelief in the possibility of it.
There were glimpses, I had incredible people walk into my life that aligned and I felt that the world of possibilities, the world in which I wanted to live, and a deep alignment of values and hopes and dreams was reignited. But that reality was short lived by doubt, fear and by an unwillingness to truly honor the visions I so deeply believed were possible. I was unable to honor myself and having spent most my energy empowering and inspiring others, there was something missing, and this was felt very strongly. A sense of dissatisfaction resided. The mindset I had in this moment, was creating the reality around me, and to be honest, I didn’t love it, and I found myself in a deep place of frustration. Not so much about the circumstances, or people or what was unfolding beyond me, but a deeper frustration at myself, as I knew I wasn’t living in alignment with my values and wasn’t honoring the beliefs I held so dare.
It is sometimes in those moments of defeat that you find the lessons you need. Unfortunately (or forunately) for me, although aware that I needed to make changes to support myself, heal, and rediscover what it meant to be me again. The reality is often matched with the difficulty in these moment to stop, pause & listen. Equally matched with fear, welcomed distractions and withdrawal. It is much easier to look outwardly at the world and all the things that aren’t working as opposed to sitting with your own inner world of healing necessary to create the changes you so desperately hoped to see. This was the case for me anyway. Thankfully, universal law stepped in, and next minute, I was jolted. Launched off a horse into a world of concussion. All it took was one moment, one jolt, one cracking of the heart and that was it, this was my opportunity. For the first time in my life, there were no more distractions, all my senses were off and yet I could hear and see things so much more clearly. I was cast into a world of ‘me’ and at that point I knew it was time. Time to choose me. Time to put myself first. I could no longer choose empowering and supporting and prioritising everyone else’s needs around me, as this moment needed my full undistracted attention. A circumstance that was meant to be, for my own highest good. I held a deeper sense of knowing, that this was exactly what I needed. As much as I am passionate about supporting others, my foundations needed attention so that I could be of greater benefit to all of what I aspired to. And so I did exactly that, leapt fully into a world of acceptance, of gratitude, of healing, of being, of rediscovering myself and making the most of every given moment.
6 months later and here I am, feeling more inspired than ever. Having experienced a rollarcoaster journey of healing that has highlighted to me the importance and value in all of what I have been doing and will continue to do. And as a part of that healing journey I have been writing, a lot, and feel it’s time to share.
I am committed now more than ever, and I believe wholeheartedly that change is possible. This is my commitment to my heart, to change and to the world around me. I am not clear exactly how the path will look but here are some beliefs that I will be embracing each and every day in my journey of heart centered living that I am 100% committed to fulfilling.
*I believe people genuinely care, about their wellbeing, their environment and that of those around them
*I believe that healing is limitless, & your mind and heart are great influences in how you can support yourself & others
*I believe that some of the simplicities and gifts in life are the very essence of harmonious connected living
*I believe life is to be lived fully with zero regrets
*I believe everyone deserves love, but learning to love yourself is the enabler for a greater experience of the heart
*I believe we deserve more than sustainability and that thriving is a thing of the future
*I believe hierarchal systems should be a thing of the past and everyone deserves the essentials of living a healthy life
*I believe that the duality of life exists to support our growth and evolution
*I believe in 3rd alternatives and just because it hasn’t been done before doesn’t mean it can’t be
*I believe emotions are an essential part of living and allowing releases will enable deeper connections with self & others
*I believe we are all unique incredible people here to cohabit, learn, grown and evolve
*I believe in unity, collaboration, friends and family and all connections in your life hold a purpose that should be valued
*I believe all weather is good weather, and we can choose how things impact us or empower us.
*I believe we can do anything when we have our heart and mind in alignment with our action and we are yet to discover the hidden gems in our potential of human existence
*I believe this world is abundant and has on offer absolutely everything we require
*I believe that if people lived a connected experience with themselves and let their heart, feelings, intuition & trust guide them, this world would be a much brighter harmonious place.
*I believe in the law of generosity, and to be a gift to those around you is mutually beneficial to you
*I believe if people cared for themselves and put their foundations first, they would have much more to support to offer those around them
*I believe in unapologetically being me, and that imperfect perfection that exists in all of us, I will learn and grown but I will honor my uniqueness and gifts in this lifetime.
*I believe that healing is innately possible and there is much more yet to be discovered here and the medicinal properties of nature is yet realised.
*I believe some people will read this and believe I am naive, and I love that, but it is through this undeniable trust and through these beliefs that I have chosen to orientate my existence
*I believe the true heart of change can only happen when there is a readiness and a commitment from the person. So often we can be aware of all the changes we wish to see, but the commitment and willingness to embrace that change takes an effort to shift the energy and desires into action.
*I believe in YOU & ME and in the world of people out there who are ready, who believe and who desire to live a life of connection, wellness, harmony, peace, balance, love, joy and passion filled living. It’s time to reignite a life filled with limitless possibilities.
Whose with me?
This is about changing things up. Embracing 3rd alternatives. Celebrating the incredible existence of things that are out there. Working together in collaboration for mutual benefit. Relying on the generosity of strangers who care about positively impacting New Zealand. This is about finding a different way that is more harmoniously aligned with the beliefs and passions so many of us hold dare. My intention here is simple – to share, to heal, to continue to live in a way that places values & beliefs at the core. To become my own heart of change. Whilst simultaneously it is my hope that this sharing will ignite something that has a ripple effect. That this too inspires and empowers the heart of change within, that we are all so capable of. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy. But just know, I too am embarking on this alongside you, and it doesn’t matter how big or small the changes you make are, just know every small effort can make an everlasting impact.
